Saturday’s Lenten challenge from St Andrew Memorial Anglican Church is to give $20 to a non profit of my choosing. Sure it could be easy to slip another $20 in my envelope on Sunday, but I think that will defeat the purpose of this challenge.

A couple of months ago I reached out to a friend, Megan Walker, for help in preparing a report for the bishops on human sexuality, the over sexualization in our culture, gender stereotypes and the pervasiveness of porn. What I learned while writing that report is that I am privileged, or I should say how privileged I am.

While I cannot deny my privilege as a white man, I can choose to use it, even if only in a small way to make a difference. I do not want to give a hand up to people, rather I want to get under them, to give them shoulders to stand on. The difference in approach is about getting into muck with others, walking in solidarity and accompanying others in their journey.

So I will continue to look for ways to walk in solidarity, but in the context of the Lenten Challenge I decided that the best place I could donate my $20 was to the London Abused Women’s Centre.